mirandainthesky:

my best friend. haha

fuckyeahplannedparenthood:

Meretricious and a Happy New Year: HAVING AN ABORTION IS NOT “KILLING A CHILD”

biddybatch:

The following uses strong language, possibly-triggering themes and a pro-choice opinion and argument for abortions.

• Children are living outside of their mother’s uterus
• Children are not barely-developed, 7-week old eggs
• Children can eat with their mouths (not umbilical cords) and poop and cry and make sounds and look around with their eyes and identify things and pick things up and throw things and make facial expressions and pull on your hair

Why would you even want to get rid of Planned Parenthood?  Planned Parenthood

• teaches sex education
• provides child health care
• provides contraceptives (birth control, condoms, etc etc)
• legal abortions

Believe it or not, not all women are 100% a-okay with their pregnancies.  Especially women who may have been raped and became pregnant with a rapist’s child.  

Believe it or not, not all women’s children will be born 100% healthy.  There are plenty of diseases that will make a child still-born, or so unhealthy or crippled that they will die shortly after birth.

Believe it or not, not all women will even keep their babies after birth.  Those unwanted children are sent to adoption agencies and orphanages, and people seem to forget that instead of procreating, they can adopt an already-born child who already has feelings and emotions, unlike the previously-mentioned “barely-developed egg”.

Believe it or not, not all people who partake in sexual activities would be able to afford contraceptives and protect themselves from unwanted pregnancies and the path to abortion in the first place without Planned Parenthood.

Believe it or not, your tax money is not being “wasted” on abortions.  Would you like your tax money to continue paying for more children, more orphanages, more education, more food, housing, etc etc for said future children instead?

So before you go and berate a woman for choosing to have an abortion, why don’t you slow the fuck down and think for a second - “Hey, maybe this woman is having a difficult time with her pregnancy” - and remember that it may also be

NONE OF YOUR FUCKING BUSINESS.

Firstly, this post would be perfect if it wasn’t so ciscentric - men, and non-binaries, can and do get pregnant too. To avoid being ciscentric/binarist,  say pregnant “people”/people with uteri etc instead of being gender-specific.

Secondly,

Children can eat with their mouths (not umbilical cords) and poop and cry and make sounds and look around with their eyes and identify things and pick things up and throw things and make facial expressions and pull on your hair

Not all children can eat through their mouths and that doesn’t make them less human. Not all children can grab hair/pull on your hair or pull facial expressions. Arguments like this run the risk of being ableist because it excludes people/children who are fed via a gastric tube/are disabled.
It’s completely irrelevant what children can or can’t do once they’re outside of the womb/what they physical abilities are or aren’t - they have an inherent right to life the second they are born because they are no longer living inside someone’s body. That’s it. That’s all it boils down to.

Sorry to be picky, and I’m sure OP didn’t mean to be ableist/isn’t being intentionally erasing towards tans* people and non-binaries either, but it’s so important that we point these things out when others don’t see them because, well, it erases people and their experiences.

iamwhoiamandidontgiveadamn:

hupsoonheng:

notcuddles:

hyaenid:

ampersandstringquartet:

nounbeast:

: This is seriously happening right now.

My spouse works in phlebotomy.

As part of an ice-breaker while he preps the tourniquet, tubes and needle, he casually asks why his patients are there. Obviously it doesn’t require an answer or anything, because that’d be invasive as hell, but often it helps alleviate patient tension if they start talking about something, and the elephant in the room makes for an easy jumping block. People trust medical workers.

“I’m getting an abortion,” one young woman he saw today said. Not the first, not the last.

But she went on to describe her situation. It wasn’t what she wanted; who knows how it happened—brief lapse of judgment, failure of contraception, tampering with contraception, marital rape, whatever—but the point was, she wasn’t ready. She decided to abort, even though her husband tried to convince her otherwise.

He asked for a divorce.

Now she’s in a race to get the procedure done as fast as possible, because he intends to fight for custody of the unborn child. He wants to legally force her to carry that fetus she doesn’t want to term and then take the resulting baby from her.

When my spouse told me about this, his voice shook.

Seriously, this is happening. It’s happening right now.

When Margaret Atwood was asked to define the genre for “A Handmaid’s Tale”, she refused to call it scifi because every single thing in the book has not only happened already but is still happening now. This post gives me that feeling.

wait, what the fuck, you can gain custody over a fetus?  D:

…I would like to submit that if her soon to be ex-husband wants to gain custody of the fetus he ought to be the one who has to carry it to term, since he’s the one who wants that to happen.  There, solved that problem.

seahorse surgery

implant fetuses that would have otherwise been aborted in all the old white men who want to destroy reproductive rights

the worst offenders should have to carry multiples

The shit that sperm donors think they are entitled to never ceases to amaze me. 

bebinn:

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bebinn:

Why are you against abortion except in cases of rape or incest?

Why do you think unhappily pregnant people should be forced to bear children for other people?

How many people who get abortions do you think were having unprotected sex at the time of conception?

How often do you think contraception fails due to manufacturing or human error?

Why do you think the point of sex is to procreate?

Why is consent to sex consent to pregnancy?

Actually that was rape, incest or if the baby is proven to have a medical disease that will keep it from living a normal life. I suppose the latter is easier to understand though? At any rate, in the case of rape, the woman is completely unwilling. Carrying that child can keep them from moving on, and getting over something that’s completely traumatic to them. For the sake of their mental health, I can understand abortion in that case. With incest, there’s also a higher chance of the child being born with some sort of disorder. There’s also cases of it being unwilling, so it could fall under the rape category too.

People who would be unhappy about being pregnant should make sure they’re doing something to keep from getting pregnant in the first place. If you’re having unprotected sex, it’s going to come around and bite you in the ass eventually.

I’m not going to pretend I know statistics, because I’m pretty sure you’re wanting me to spit one out so you can turn around and tell me I’m wrong. So, I’ll come out and say it. I don’t know the statistics. But babies get made when sperm meet an egg so obviously something had to happen there.

I’m aware it malfunctions. I’m also aware there’s several things you could be using at once if you certainly don’t want a child. If you seriously don’t want one, don’t be stupid about it and do everything you can to make sure you don’t have one. As I replied to the ask a few minutes ago, there’s female condoms, male condoms, birth control, the IUD, spermicide, ect, ect.

… Because that is what the biological reason for having sex is. You have sex to procreate. Men have sperm, and women have eggs and they have those things so they can procreate. I’m aware there’s other reasons for having sex but when it comes down to it, that is the biological reason for it. Think of it as if we’re talking about animals. They have sex to create offspring, to keep the species going. That’s what we’re biologically programmed to do.

Because by having sex, you’re accepting the fact that a pregnancy could occur. That’s how I see it. Which leads us back to the biological reason for sex. Also, by taking all the precautions to prevent pregnancy, you’re also accepting the fact that a pregnancy could occur, before that gets thrown into my face. We’re all old enough to know that sex can lead to pregnancy. 

You can find the statistics if you use Google.

So, next question on the rape and incest front - why do they get to have abortions, while everyone else doesn’t? You didn’t really answer that question. Can’t a person who had consensual sex be traumatized by pregnancy? They didn’t consent to pregnancy - just sex.

You are essentially saying that one should abstain from sex if they don’t want to be pregnant, because contraception can fail. You are aware, then, that this means there are large numbers of people who can never, ever have sex? There are people who can’t afford to be pregnant or give birth, people whose health prevents them from carrying a pregnancy, married couples who don’t want kids (or more kids), people in abusive relationships, people with unrecognized mental illnesses, people with unrecognized genders…I mean, that’s a huge chunk of the world’s population, right there, whom you are ordering to abstain from ever having P-in-V sex (after all, the list of things that count as sex is nearly endless). That is wrong, and none of your business in the first place.

Catherine Newman wrote an essay called, “Conceiving is Not Always the Same as Having an Idea,” in the book Choice: True Stories of Birth, Contraception, Infertility, Adoption, Single Parenthood & Abortion. She concluded with this:

Choice, in all its many forms - adoption, abstinence, technology, birth control, kids, no kids, and even, I know, regret - is what makes human sexuality truly human and parenthood truly viable. Without it, we are as witlessly tied to the mechanics of our bodies as salmon struggling upstream…

We are not animals - not in the way we think of animals. Most of them don’t get any pleasure out of sex. For them, sex is purely and only for reproduction. Human sexuality is complex and multi-faceted, as you acknowledged. The vast majority of people having sex are having sex for pleasure, fun, connection, sharing, healing, transcending, and just plain old fucking. The biological aspect of human sexuality is just one of many, and it’s completely ass-backwards to insist that that is the one aspect we cannot have control over. Removing reproductive options is cruel and dangerous - it’s a simple fact that if someone does not want to be pregnant, they will find a way not to be. It has always been and will always be that way.

By simply living, you’re accepting that a lot of things could happen - that doesn’t mean that when they do, you have to lie there and take it. By having sex, you’re accepting that you could get pregnant, could get STDs, could be raped, could be secretly videotaped or watched, and could be hurt (as well as a whole host of other unpleasant things). That doesn’t mean that when those things do happen, it’s all good - and god, just deal with it, and don’t be so irresponsible next time. Consent to sex is not consent to pregnancy, just as swimming is not consent to drowning, and driving isn’t consent to crashing.

There’s a reason we have treatment for STDs and legal proceedings and counseling for those who have been violated. Why is that any different from an unwanted pregnancy?

Oh, bebinn <3

healthyemma:

blueboxesaresexy:

Cool story, bros. It’s awesome that you think you get a say about what goes on in my and other people’s uteruses.

Lots of women say that cismen should get no say on abortion.  While I agree (with the possible exception of some almost-fathers), I don’t think anyone other than the pregnant individual involved should get a say.  Some ciswomen are incapable of being pregnant, and they shouldn’t get more of a say than the cismen over there just because they have vaginas.  And I’m probably capable of being pregnant, but my being pro-life (which I’m not, but hypothetically) shouldn’t affect anyone who is currently pregnant and considering an abortion.

Not your uterus? Not your choice.  Even if you have a uterus of your own, it still isn’t your choice.

consumedreams:

jacquelinerobbie reblogged your link: yea, i just said that: i just need to comment on abortion real quick.

Why would you want to kill something you have created?

There could be a lot of reasons.  Financial circumstances change, relationships crumble, health issues… the list goes on.  The fact is that it is not up to me, you or anyone else to judge, shame or demean someone else over the choices they make over their own body.

And also because you didn’t choose to create it and you don’t want it residing inside your fucking body because that would FREAK you the living hell out for the entire 9 months you’d have to carry it around for…?!

Y’know, just throwing it out there that consenting to sex IS NOT THE SAME AS CONSENTING TO PREGNANCY.

When I have sex with a person who has a penis, I am never ever EVER consenting to creating a new life. Even if I am silly enough to not take precautions (which I never am but yeh).

ragingbrainstorm:

so apparently mankind is supposed to have full dominance over all “lesser” animals 

but women apparently don’t have any dominion over what grows in their bodies.

cool.

bebinn:

I’ve written about the methods of legal abortion: procedures performed by licensed medical professionals in a clean, sterile environment, with clean, sterile tools. But what about illegal abortions?

Those who push for more restrictions on abortion access - really, those who push for abortion to be made illegal - seem unwilling to acknowledge the disastrous alternatives. Many who are anti-choice have no memories of what life was like before Roe v. Wade in 1973. We know abortion rates stay fairly steady, regardless of legality. How are these illegal abortions procured? What options are there for those without the money or connections to a discrete physician?

To answer these questions, I’ve compiled a list of methods of illegal, or “back-alley” abortions.

Waldo L. Fielding, M.D. wrote an article for the New York Times in 2008, describing what he saw while working as a gynecologist in New York City from 1948 to 1953.

The familiar symbol of illegal abortion is the infamous “coat hanger” — which may be the symbol, but is in no way a myth. In my years in New York, several women arrived with a hanger still in place. Whoever put it in — perhaps the patient herself — found it trapped in the cervix and could not remove it.

…

Almost any implement you can imagine had been and was used to start an abortion — darning needles, crochet hooks, cut-glass salt shakers, soda bottles, sometimes intact, sometimes with the top broken off.

Another method that I did not encounter, but heard about from colleagues in other hospitals, was a soap solution forced through the cervical canal with a syringe. This could cause almost immediate death if a bubble in the solution entered a blood vessel and was transported to the heart.

The worst case I saw, and one I hope no one else will ever have to face, was that of a nurse who was admitted with what looked like a partly delivered umbilical cord. Yet as soon as we examined her, we realized that what we thought was the cord was in fact part of her intestine, which had been hooked and torn by whatever implement had been used in the abortion. It took six hours of surgery to remove the infected uterus and ovaries and repair the part of the bowel that was still functional.

A case report from 1911 describes a self-induced abortion using a knitting needle.

In the afternoon the day before her admission she had attempted to pass into the uterus a bone knitting needle…During the attempt the needle broke off short, leaving about half of it inside her body…During the next four days the temperature gradually rose, until on the fifth day after admission it was 102.2 F, and the pulse rate 100. On the evening of this day uterine hemorrhage occurred…and at 6:30 next morning the patient aborted, a fetus some 4 in. in length…The needle had just missed the right border of the rectum, the wall of the bowel being slightly torn superficially…

A case study from 1972 goes into greater detail about the use of a soap solution.

A case report from 1964 describes a woman’s attempt to self-abort with turpentine.

Believing herself to be pregnant she had, on the afternoon preceding admission, injected into her uterus the contents of a rectal syringe filled with turpentine and water. Immediately thereafter, she experienced a sharp burning sensation which “went all through me up to my chest.” This was followed by a convulsive seizure. Two hours later she began to have paroxysms of coughing productive of a bloody sputum.

A case history from 1961 describes two women’s attempts to self-abort with Lysol. One woman survived. The other did not.

The second patient was a 26-year-old French Canadian woman, married, but separated from her husband. She was…3 1/2 months pregnant. She had used a vaginal douche of concentrated Lysol solution 25 hours before admission…On examination there was erythema of the thighs and vulva. Pieces of placental tissue were passed but the abortion remained incomplete. The day after admission renal shut-down became apparent…A full-blown picture of lower nephron nephrosis [acute renal failure] developed rapidly in this case…The patient’s condition deteriorated rapidly and she died on the sixth day in acute pulmonary edema [fluid in the lungs].

Those who got them done by others didn’t fare much better (PDF). (1964)

…this 21-year-old single girl…went to an abortionist who inserted a catheter and wire into her cervix. The wire was removed after four days when chills, fever, crampy lower abdominal pain, nausea, and vomiting developed. Symptoms persisted until she came to the emergency ward with a temperature of 103 F (39.4 C) and a shaking chill…Her abdomen was rigid, with diffuse tenderness and absence of bowel sounds. There was tenderness, also, on pelvic and rectal palpation, the uterus was enlarged with necrotic [dead] tissue extruding from the cervix…She was discharged to her home after 17 days, only to return 10 days later with a temperature of 105 F (40.6 C)…Two days later…a laporotomy was done…and total hysterectomy [removal of the uterus]…She was…sterile at the age of 21.

…this 25-year-old married woman was given a soap-and-bleach douche by an abortionist. Following the douche, fever and chills developed with vaginal bleeding and crampy lower abdominal pain. On admission she had a temperature of 103 F (39.4 C), which rose to 106 F (41.4 C)…an emergency hysterectomy was done, following which she had a cardiac arrest. She was resuscitated, but arrested a second time and did not respond to resuscitation.

Some women attempted to induce miscarriage by drinking poisons such as aloe, ergot of rye, savin oil (derived from a juniper plant), teas made from tansy, pennyroyal, rue, and nightshade, high doses of vitamin C, and other natural “remedies.”

Dr. Garson Romalis, who survived two attempts on his life, gave a speech in 2008 in which he described what he saw in med school.

The first time I started to think about abortion was in 1960, when I was in second year medical school. I was assigned the case of a young woman who had died of a septic abortion. She had aborted herself using slippery elm bark…The young woman in our case developed an overwhelming infection. At autopsy she had multiple abscesses throughout her body, in her brain, lungs, liver and abdomen.

I have never forgotten that case.

…

I will never forget the 17-year-old girl lying on a stretcher with 6 feet of small bowel protruding from her vagina. She survived.

I will never forget the jaundiced woman in liver and kidney failure, in septic shock, with very severe anemia, whose life we were unable to save.

Some women were also told that they could induce miscarriage by undergoing physical stress, such as vigorous exercise, jumping off tables, bellyflopping onto a hard surface, receiving punches, kicks or other blows to their stomachs, or throwing themselves down the stairs.

None of these methods were guaranteed to work. Women would be left injured, ill, sterile, or dead.

Was that hard to read? It should be. That was the reality of pre-Roe America, and for some, it is still their reality. Those who can’t afford abortions, can’t get to clinics, or can’t tell anyone about their situation, turn to these methods, and worse. In countries where abortion is illegal, this is what people are offered.

Lysol, carbonic acid, coat hangers, stairs, and fists are not surgical instruments. Back alleys, kitchens, and motel rooms are not operating rooms.

Regardless of your opinion on abortion, this is what happens when abortion is no longer available. Keeping abortion legal is the only moral option.

panda-mo:

desliz:

speakfortheweak:

It doesn’t mean I’m religious.
Because I’m not.

It doesn’t mean I hate LGBT community.
Because I am a supporter.

It doesn’t mean I force women to give birth.
Because I never will.

Take what you want from my blog, but never assume I’m just your stereotypical pro-lifer. It is VERY possible to ask questions, state your opinions in a civil manner on this blog. I am respectful and I enjoy answering all questions received! 

Thanks for following! :)
-speakfortheweak 

Let me tell you some things.

I used to investigate child abuse and neglect. I can tell you how to stop the vast majority of abortion in the world.

First, make knowledge and access to contraception widely available. Start teaching kids before they hit puberty. Teach them about domestic violence and coercion, and teach them not to coerce and rape. Create a strong, loving community where women and girls feel safe and supported in times of need. Because guess what? They aren’t. You know what happens to babies born under such circumstances? They get hurt, unnecessarily. They get sick, unnecessarily. They get removed from parents who love them but who are unprepared for the burden of a child. Resources? Honey, we try. There aren’t enough resources anywhere. There are waiting lists, and promises, and maybes. If the government itself can’t hook people up, what makes you think an impoverished single mom can handle it?

Abolish poverty. Do you have any idea how much childcare costs? Daycare can cost as much or more than monthly rent. They may be inadequately staffed. Getting a private nanny is a nice idea, but they don’t come cheap either. Relatives? Do they own a car? Does the bus run at the right times? Do they have jobs of their own they need to work just to keep the lights on? Are they going to stick around until you get off you convenience store shift at 4 AM? Do they have criminal histories that will make them unsuitable as caregivers when CPS pokes around? You gonna pay for that? Who’s going to pay for that?

End rape. I know your type errs on the side of blaming the woman, but I’ve seen little girls who’ve barely gotten their periods pregnant because somebody thought raping preteens was an awesome idea. You want to put a child through that? Or someone with a mental or physical inability for whom pregnancy would be frightening, painful or even life-threatening? I’ve seen nonverbal kids who had their feet sliced up by caregivers for no fucking reason at all, you think sexual abuse doesn’t happen either?

You say there’s lots of couples who want to adopt. Kiddo, what they want to adopt are healthy white babies, preferably untainted by the wombs and genetics of women with alcohol or drug dependencies. I’ve seen the kids they don’t want, who almost no one wants. You people focus only on the happy pink babies, the gigglers, the ones who grow and grow with no trouble. Those are not the kids who linger in foster care. Those are certainly not the older kids and teenagers who age out of foster care and then are thrown out in the streets, usually with an array of medical and mental health issues. Are they too old to count?

And yeah, I’ve seen the babies, little hand-sized things barely clinging to life. There’s no glory, no wonder there. There is no wonder in a pregnant woman with five dollars to her name, so deep in depression you wonder if she’ll be alive in a week. Therapy costs money. Medicine costs money. Food, clothes, electricity cost money. Government assistance is a pittance; poverty drives women and girls into situations where they are forced to rely on people who abuse them to survive. (I’ve been up in more hospitals than I can count.)

In each and every dark pit of desperation, I have never seen a pro-lifer. I ain’t never seen them babysitting, scrubbing floors, bringing over goods, handing mom $50 bucks a month or driving her to the pediatrician. I ain’t never seen them sitting up for hours with an autistic child who screams and rages so his mother can get some sleep while she rests up from working 14-hour days. I don’t see them fixing leaks in rundown houses or playing with a kid while the police prepare to interview her about her sexual abuse. They’re not paying for the funerals of babies and children who died after birth, when they truly do become independent organisms. And the crazy thing is they think they’ve already done their job, because the child was born!

Aphids give birth, girl. It’s no miracle. You want to speak for the weak? Get off your high horse and get your hands dirty helping the poor, the isolated, the ill and mentally ill women and mothers and their children who already breathe the dirty air. You are doing nothing, absolutely nothing, for children. You don’t have a flea’s comprehension of injustice. You are not doing shit for life until you get in there and fight that darkness. Until you understand that abortion is salvation in a world like ours. Does that sound too hard? Do you really think suffering post-birth is more permissible, less worthy of outrage?

“Pro-life” is simply a philosophy in which the only life worth saving is the one that can be saved by punishing a woman.

FLAWLESS COMMENTARY ABOVE. COMPLETELY AGREED. I’d love to see speakfortheweak reply to this, though we all know she won’t.

speakfortheweak:

It doesn’t mean I’m religious.
Because I’m not.

It doesn’t mean I hate LGBT community.
Because I am a supporter.

It doesn’t mean I force women to give birth.
Because I never will.

Take what you want from my blog, but never assume I’m just your stereotypical pro-lifer. It is VERY possible to ask questions, state your opinions in a civil manner on this blog. I am respectful and I enjoy answering all questions received! 

Thanks for following! :)
-speakfortheweak 

Actually sick of you lying.

It doesn’t mean I force women to give birth.
Because I never will.

You want abortion to be illegal. You work towards that being a reality. If you had it your way, you would vote for abortion to be illegal if it was likely that it would become so with enough votes (which it won’t).
You DO, in theory, want to force pregnant people* into giving birth when they don’t want to.

Making abortion illegal means they CANNOT ACCESS ABORTION. Which means that HAVE to give birth or self-abort, which results in 70,000 deaths per year as it is.

*it is NOT just women who get pregnant and need abortions. You claim to be a supporter of the Gender and Sexuality Minority community but you constantly erase genderqueer, non binary and trans* people.

You don’t have to be a woman to have a womb/be pregnant.